When you need a Whisky...
Have you ever had one of those days when everything happening around you is just plain depressing/ annoying/ boring/ dumb? When you can get push yourself to do the things that need to be done no matter how hard you try? When things aren't happening the way they should?
You, my friend, need to sit down and sip through some whisky.
Now don't get me wrong here. I don't promote consumption of alcohol at all. In most situations, I'd rather vent out my frustration in a gym or on a tennis court instead of a bar. It's healthier. However, there are days when they can't help you like a whisky can. So grab that one person you really like, a friend or a woman/man you wish to get to know better, find a peaceful bar and listen.
Now here is the weird part. Most of you might have expected me to ask you to talk. However, I am not asking you to talk about it. I'm asking you to listen to the other person more. For a person who is self obsessed on most days and loves to talk about himself almost all the time, I know the pros and cons of talking about your shit. While there may be situations where talking about your problems is needed, you may need a counsellor for that and not whisky.
Listening takes your attention away from your problems and makes you focus on what the other person is going through. It makes you shift your focus away from the things that have been bothering you, even if it is for a little while. Listening gets you to understand how different things are for other people and how the perspective of the person in front of you differs from yours. Last but not the least, you can enjoy your whisky better if you don't have to make much effort of talking but just listening, being engaged and asking relevant questions.
Two things I have always heard a lot in the past are "don't give yourself so much importance" and "You don't try to listen. You just want to talk". While I can't say that I regret being the way I am, I am trying to be more open to constructive criticism that improves me as a person, as a student as well as a professional at work. Listening is one area that I have started to focus on.
I'm still not a good listener. However, I've started working on it. Listening is helping me get different perspectives, different ways of dealing with the same situation and does get me away from my own troubles which, at times, are quite troublesome to say the least. Hope you can find it useful as well.
You, my friend, need to sit down and sip through some whisky.
Now don't get me wrong here. I don't promote consumption of alcohol at all. In most situations, I'd rather vent out my frustration in a gym or on a tennis court instead of a bar. It's healthier. However, there are days when they can't help you like a whisky can. So grab that one person you really like, a friend or a woman/man you wish to get to know better, find a peaceful bar and listen.
Now here is the weird part. Most of you might have expected me to ask you to talk. However, I am not asking you to talk about it. I'm asking you to listen to the other person more. For a person who is self obsessed on most days and loves to talk about himself almost all the time, I know the pros and cons of talking about your shit. While there may be situations where talking about your problems is needed, you may need a counsellor for that and not whisky.
Listening takes your attention away from your problems and makes you focus on what the other person is going through. It makes you shift your focus away from the things that have been bothering you, even if it is for a little while. Listening gets you to understand how different things are for other people and how the perspective of the person in front of you differs from yours. Last but not the least, you can enjoy your whisky better if you don't have to make much effort of talking but just listening, being engaged and asking relevant questions.
Two things I have always heard a lot in the past are "don't give yourself so much importance" and "You don't try to listen. You just want to talk". While I can't say that I regret being the way I am, I am trying to be more open to constructive criticism that improves me as a person, as a student as well as a professional at work. Listening is one area that I have started to focus on.
I'm still not a good listener. However, I've started working on it. Listening is helping me get different perspectives, different ways of dealing with the same situation and does get me away from my own troubles which, at times, are quite troublesome to say the least. Hope you can find it useful as well.
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